Emphasize Chanukah’s meaning
By Laura Seymour

The season is definitely upon us, and it may be better or worse that Chanukah is early. There have been programs at JCCs and synagogues for years called “The December Dilemma.” The goal of this program was to help parents learn how to handle children’s questions and desires, while remembering our own. Here are a variety of thoughts and ideas — all taken from others wiser than I.

Visit Christmas

Enjoy visiting your non-Jewish friends and celebrating holidays with them, but be sure to include them in your holiday events. Help your children understand by explaining, “When we help decorate Bobby’s Christmas tree, we have a good time, but we don’t bring it home. We do not celebrate Christmas. Let’s invite Bobby and his family for Shabbat (or Passover or Chanukah).”

Don’t compete; create meaning

We do not need to set up Chanukah as competition or compensation for Christmas. Create meaningful traditions for all of your holidays. There’s more to Christmas and Chanukah than gifts. Judaism celebrates weekly; make a big deal out of Shabbat.

Talk with friends

The discussion is more important than the solutions. There are no right or wrong answers on how to deal with Santa Claus, lights, songs, etc.

Celebrate Rosh Chodesh

Also, Chanukah is the only Jewish holiday that spans two Jewish months — Kislev and Tevet. Therefore, we get to enjoy not only Chanukah, but also Rosh Chodesh.
One tradition of Rosh Chodesh comes from the time when Moses came down from Mount Sinai and he found the Israelites worshipping the golden calf. According to the Midrash, the women refused to give their gold to help build the idol, so their reward was a special holiday once a month — Rosh Chodesh, the new moon. The tradition on Chanukah for women is that no work is to be done while the candles burn, therefore, Chanukah Rosh Chodesh is a very special night.
As you celebrate this year, perhaps each night could be a time to learn about a different country and the way Chanukah is celebrated by those who live there. Are there different foods, different customs, different songs?
An even more important question is, “What is the same?” What connects us to Jews throughout the world? Celebrating Chanukah means remembering the story of the Maccabees and how Jew fought against Jew to keep the traditions and the beliefs alive.
Today, it continues to be a challenge to keep the essence of our Jewishness alive — we are the link in the tradition. So let us teach our children how to appreciate their differences first, by teaching and modeling Jewish life and all the beauty of it, and second, by learning about others and then going home to what we know and love.
Laura Seymour is director of Jewish life and learning and director of camping services at the Aaron Family Jewish Community Center.

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